Five Signs It’s Time to Quit

Your stomach is always in knots.  You yell at your spouse or kids over the smallest things. On your lunch hour, you just want to take a nap. Maybe it’s time to rethink your situation.

Over the years I have had many of those “hit you over the head” moments. You know the one where you come to the stunning realization that NOW is the time? But there have also been times when I have sat and stewed for weeks or months, wondering if I was making the right decision.

I polled my friends on Facebook, and came up with these

Five Signs It’s Time to Quit (your job, relationship, or whatever)

You’re Crying/Dreading/Angry/Sick Every Day

If your job, relationship or living situation is affecting you negatively, be it physically, mentally, or emotionally, that’s a good sign it’s time to quit.

“I knew it was the right decision when I noticed I wasn’t angry all the time (anymore).”

“When it became evident it was affecting my health.”

“When I was secretly fantasizing about the other person dying a natural death.”

“When I developed an ulcer.”

Different Values or Directions

You’ve been there for years and there’s no room left for improvement or advancement. Or your values are way off each other.

“If the job didn’t fulfill me or my children couldn’t be a priority, then it wasn’t worth keeping.”

“Realizing that the direction you are heading is not the direction you want to be going and asking oneself is this what I want to settle for in the end.”

The Situation Goes From Bad to Worse

The last company I worked at went from a 10 person office to a 25 person factory/office in a matter of months. Growing pains aside, we also went from having some degree of autonomy to having our corporate bosses in Spain dictating and second-guessing every move we made. All the fun got sucked right out of the room. That’s when I knew it was time to leave.

You’ve Tried to Remedy the Situation

You can see the problem. You try to have a meeting, offer a suggestion or even fix your own “bad attitude”, but to no avail.

“I went to them and made specific recommendations on how to improve business. They did none of them.”

In my case, it seemed that any time one of us tried to improve/modernize a process, or explain why what works in Spain won’t necessarily work in the U.S., we were immediately shot down. “Because I said so” was heard regularly.

Your Gut Tells You It’s Time to Quit

Sometimes you just have a feeling, that “hit you over the head moment” or God breeze, or gut punch. Whatever, you call it, be sure to trust that “still, small voice.1

“For me, it is a feeling. I know when something is no longer right for me and scary or difficult as it may be, it is time to leap and hope the net appears.”

When I prayed about it and couldn’t get a settled feeling about staying. I knew that was the Holy Spirit telling me ‘It’s time to go.'”

The Next Step

If at all possible, try to have an exit plan (see How Changing My Life Helped Me Move Forward). Sometimes, just knowing you have a way out will make it easier to get through the last few months.

Whatever, you do, don’t wait too long. After all, you have the rest of your life ahead of you!

1 1 Kings 19:12

Coconut Chicken

coconut chicken

Bud and I both love shrimp.  After all, as Bubba says in Forrest Gump,

One of our absolute favorites is coconut shrimp. However, Art is not a big fan of shrimp. 🙁 So one day, I day I made up a recipe for coconut chicken. It’s been such a big hit that we eat it at least once a month. I hope you like it too 😉

I recommend using virgin coconut oil instead of refined. Virgin seems to add more coconut flavor to the dish than the refined version. I also use unsweetened shredded coconut. If you would prefer a little sweetness, feel free to use the sweetened coconut instead.

This dish would go well with a variety of sides, but I like to serve it with Pineapple Fried Rice. (And maybe a cool, tropical beverage?)

Coconut Chicken Recipe


1 lb. boneless skinless chicken breasts,  cut up and pounded to 1/2″ thick, or chicken tenderloins

2 Tbsp. virgin coconut oil

1/2 cup all purpose flour

1/2 tsp. salt

1/2 tsp. pepper

2 eggs, beaten

3/4 cup Panko breadcrumbs

1 cup shredded coconut, unsweetened


Set up a dredging station with three shallow plates (or bowls). I dredge left to  right, with the frying pan at the far right.

Mix the flour, salt and pepper on the first plate. Put the beaten eggs on the second plate. Melt the coconut oil in the frying pan, over medium heat.

Dredge the chicken, one piece at a time, starting with the flour plate, moving on to the egg plate, and finishing with the Panko plate. I use a fork to move the chicken from plate to plate, but you will probably need to press the Panko onto the meat to make sure it sticks. If you don’t like getting your fingers dirty, you can wear thin gloves.

Fry the chicken in small batches, for about 3-4 minutes per side. Drain on paper towels, then you can keep them warm in a 200F oven.

coconut chicken