Change Is Painful, But …

change is painful

A lot of changes have happened for my family in the past year. The biggest change happened a little over a month ago. I quit my job and Art, Bud and I packed up the dogs and moved to Oregon. We are currently living with Art’s parents, while looking for jobs and housing.

Even though this was a planned move, it was still a gigantic leap of faith and has been very scary. Moving away from almost all our friends and everything we were familiar with was painful.  There were lots of tears and sleepless nights.

Let’s face it, most change is painful. The process of metamorphosis, as shown in the photo above, can’t be easy for the poor caterpillar. I’m pretty sure Dr. Jekyll didn’t consider it a party when he transformed into Mr. Hyde.  And what about poor Eustace Scrubb in The Voyage of the ‘Dawn Treader’ ?

In the book, Eustace stumbles upon a huge treasure, which he decides to keep for himself. He falls asleep with a gold bracelet on his boy arm, and wakes up with the bracelet cutting off the circulation of his dragon leg? What? A dragon leg? Eustace realizes that his greed has trapped him and he begins to cry.

Aslan arrives, and leads Eustace to a well, at the center of a garden.

Eustace looks at the well and wants to get into the water to soothe the pain in his leg, but Aslan says he will have to be undressed first.  Eustace realizes that he is a dragon and that dragons have skins like snakes which could be shed. With his new claws, Eustace begins tearing at his dragon skin. He peels off one layer only to discover another nasty, scaly, and rough layer underneath. And then another. After three layers, he realizes it’s vain — he will never make himself clean or get rid of his pain or shed the nasty skin. He allows Aslan to help him “undress.”

The very first tear he made was so deep that I thought it had gone right into my heart. And when he began pulling the skin off, it hurt worse than anything I’ve ever felt. The only thing that made me able to bear it was just the pleasure of feeling the stuff peel off. . . . – C.S. Lewis – Voyage of the Dawntreader

Should we avoid the pain? I don’t think so. We could have stayed in Napa, but the high prices were making it more and more difficult to make ends meet. Oregon is much more affordable and I know everything will happen according to God’s plan.

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says theLord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. – Jeremiah 29:11

Have you ever made a major change? How did God provide for you? Please share in the comments.


Top Eight Tips For Small House Living

small house living

Throughout my married life, I’ve never lived in a large house. Our first house, where we lived for 20 years, was about 1100 square feet.  It seemed spacious for the four of us, and we even had a second bathroom in the garage!!

After we lost our house in 2012, we moved to an even smaller rental (under 1000 feet), but this time there were five of us and one bathroom!!  This was probably the time period where I developed my best strategies for living in a small house.  I call them strategies for small house living, but really they were strategies for keeping my sanity 😉

I talked to my friends on Facebook and between us we came up with these:

Top Eight Tips For Small House Living

  1. Organize, organize and keep it that way. Use clear, same size boxes for shoes and other items to make easy stacking, label stuff and put things you use most often right where you can see it. If you haven’t looked at something in over a year get rid of it. Most of all make use if vertical space. – Christina D.
  2.  Walls are thin -be aware of your volume, i.e. loud music, yelling, slamming doors.- Teressa M.
  3. Get rid of everything! Live life with only the utmost necessities. When I got divorced I was forced to move from 2800 sq ft home to a 890 sq ft apartment, I   kept some clothing and shoes, sold and donated about 90% of my possessions. Simple living is easy and stays neat longer. I own more yarn now than anything else. Haha – Rosie A.
  4. Communication is key, especially if you only have one bathroom. We would always check to see if anyone else needed the bathroom before we took a shower.  Otherwise we might get a surprise visitor mid-shower!! – Teressa M.
    a) – a subcategory of this tip is that if you only have one bathroom and the shower has a sliding door, hang a shower curtain in case someone needs to use the bathroom while you are taking a shower.
  5. I keep it simple. One set of things, ie towels, sheets, dishes. I only buy what I need. Also I find having less clutter is freeing. Less stuff, Less stress.  – Christine Z.
  6. Have an outlet outside the house – garden, walk, join a gym, volunteer- so you have a place to go when the walls close in. – Teressa M.
    a) a subcategory of this tip is to make sure everyone has their own space and the ability to have alone time.
  7. Purge …purge….purge. If I want to keep things that I only use once in a while, I store them in clear bins, and store them in the garage. – Marjorie G.small house living
  8. Clean the bathroom sink by moving items onto a TV tray outside the bathroom. – Teressa Morris


Do you have any tips for small house living?  Please share in the comments below.