Not Enough Spoons

not enough spoons
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Two days after Thanksgiving I hit a wall. I woke up in the morning, fed the dogs and went straight back to bed. Slept another hour and a half, then got up for an hour. After that I did manage to finish a 1500 word article and write one whopping paragraph in my new book, but other than that, I pretty much laid around.  I felt like a slug.

Truth be told, I knew this day was coming.  I cooked most of Thanksgiving dinner myself, for the first time in five years. In addition, we had friends come visit the day after Thanksgiving. It was so nice to catch up with them and do “normal” stuff like driving through the Festival of Lights and going out to dinner. The problem was, I didn’t have enough spoons for all that activity.

Not enough spoons? If you’ve never heard of Spoon Theory, it might sound a bit weird. Let me explain. The Spoon Theory is a blog post written by Christine Miserandino, back in 2003, to answer the question of what lupus felt like. Over the years, those of us with chronic illnesses and mental illnesses have co-opted the story.  Don’t worry.  I can wait while you go read it.

Too impatient? I knew it. Okay, I’ll give you the condensed version.  Imagine you have ten spoons. Every day you have no more than ten spoons. If you’re me, working, socializing, cooking, not to mention any particularly emotional events or surprises (dog threw up, son is sick, etc.) all use up spoons. So you have to decide what things are spoon-worthy (or spoon-necessary) in any given day. On rare occasions you can borrow from the next day’s spoons, but if you do this too often, you’ll wake up one day unable to get out of bed.

Obviously I used way too many spoons between Thursday and Friday. When I overdo it, it can either result in exhaustion or a meltdown or both. Fortunately, this time it was just exhaustion, but obviously I need to re-evaluate, with Christmas approaching, and remind myself not to overdo it around the holidays.

Do you have a chronic illness? How do you keep from running out of spoons?


Anxiety Workbook for Women Course Review

Title: Anxiety Workbook for Womenanxiety workbook review

Genre: Self-Help

Publisher: Gumroad

Format: Course


About the Book:

from the author:

Throughout my life, I’ve seen other women just like me, dealing with anxiety and stress just like mine… and worse.

After I uncovered these natural anxiety remedies and strategies and put together my plan for battling my own anxiety, I started to look around me.

I looked around and saw all of these incredible women, totally weighed down by the stresses of living in today’s day and age (it’s a very tough world we live in) and by their own anxieties.

These women I saw… women just like you… were and are desperate for answers.

I knew I couldn’t keep these strategies to myself.

I made it my mission to empower women with anxiety-busting strategies that work almost IMMEDIATELY in the heat of one’s most anxious moments.

I also made it my mission to empower women with natural anxiety remedies and strategies that knock overpowering anxiety out altogether–in the long term.

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My Review:

It’s no secret that I suffer from anxiety (Comfortable In My Own Skin, Ripples and Aftershocks, Anxiety Triggers). I have a lot of tools in my arsenal and have dealt well with my anxiety for quite a few months.

However, since we recently moved to a town where we know very few people, in a different state, I’ve recently felt anxiety raising its ugly head again. No panic attacks yet, but if I don’t get it under control soon, I’m sure they’ll be returning.

I was thrilled when Darlene Berkel asked me to review her Anxiety Workbook for Women and 30 Day Anxiety Bust Through Program.  I can use all the help I can get!!

Here are some of the things I really like about this program:

  1. Darlene has suffered from anxiety herself and figured out strategies that worked for her.
  2. The program includes 30 days of emails that build on each other to help you determine your own path through anxiety.
  3. Daily assignments help you reset your focus (since obsessing about problems is one of the things that triggers anxiety)
  4. Darlene gives you daily routines to choose from to help with better self care and awareness.
  5. Reflections and affirmations to help you redirect your thoughts.

I haven’t finished the program yet, but I am looking forward to every new day as I am discovering new ways to deal with my anxiety. The assignments don’t take very long, and they are well worth it!!

I received a complimentary copy of this program for the purpose of review.  All opinions are 100?% my own.

About the Author:

Darlene Berkel is a Certified Professional Consultant with over 22 years of experience in leadership roles in the government, the judicial system and in the corporate world.

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