Writing My Own Eulogy

writing my own eulogy

I have been working through the book Living Forward: A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want by Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy.  Lately I have felt a little trapped in my current job and needed a way to figure out my new direction.

In chapter 4, the authors encourage us to write our own eulogy. (A eulogy is defined as a speech or piece of writing that praises someone or something highly, typically someone who has just died.)  At first, the idea of writing my own eulogy was a little creepy.   But then I realized it was important to me how I will be remembered when I’m gone.  So, I procrastinated for a few days, but I finally did it.

First, I listed all the key relationships in my life (yours may be different):

God

Art

Children

Parents

Brothers

Followers (on blog, Sparkpeople, and/or social media)

Friends

I wrote what I wanted each group to remember about me if I died tomorrow.  Then I compiled it all together into a eulogy.  I will use this eulogy to help determine what is important to me and what my goals for the future should be.

My Eulogy

Teressa was known as a tenderhearted woman whose mission in life was to help others change their lives for the positive. Her husband and her family were the most important relationships in her life (after God) and she tried to spend as much time as possible encouraging, supporting and enjoying her time with them.

Teressa was honest, sometimes to a fault, and brave.  One thing she learned later on was how important it was to take care of herself, in order to be able to take care of others.  She always encouraged others to take care of themselves and speak up for themselves.  In addition, she taught people to stand on their own two feet.  Her philosophy was to support and encourage, but not to do for someone what they were capable of doing for themselves.

After many years as a homeschooling mom and accounting professional, Teressa left the corporate sector to pursue her dream of being a life coach and author.  Those who read her books, participated in her coaching sessions and followed her on social media were positively impacted by what she had to say and how willing she was to listen without judging.

This is what I would like my life to be.  Obviously, I have a ways to go to get there.  I will continue working through Living Forward and I hope you will follow along with me!!

I received a complimentary copy of this book for the purpose of review.  All opinions are 100% my own.

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Hold my Hand

hold my hand

I carried Bud on my hip until he was about 3.  He weighed 30 or so pounds by then. I went to the doctor for what I thought was pleurisy. As it turned out, I had strained muscles from carrying around that much weight, not to mention displacing my hip that far for him to ride on. After that I made him walk on his own.  I held his hand, but he had to walk on his own.

We all get to that point sometimes where we feel like the person in the “Footprints” poem, who says to God, “But I have noticed that during the most trying periods of my life there have only been one set of footprints in the sand. Why, when I needed you most, have you not been there for me?” to which the Lord replied, “Those times when you see only one set of footprints, it is then that I carried you.”

Thank God for those carrying moments, but sometimes we want God to carry us even though we don’t NEED God to carry us.  Like my 3 year old son.

I remember one time hiking up to Eagle Lake, near Lake Tahoe with my family.  I was pretty out of shape at the time and with my asthma, the elevation, at about 5600 feet was really getting to me.  Art kept encouraging me along, reminding me that it’s only a mile to the lake and it’s all downhill on the way back, but I finally just gave up.  I sat down on a rock and refused to budge.  Finally Art looked at me and said, “Well, I’m not going to carry you down.  You can do this.  Just take your time.”  And I got up and held his hand and made it to the lake, which was a spectacular view and the walk back was completely downhill.

hold handSometimes I think we WANT to be done.  We want God to pick us up and carry us until the rough part is over.  But God knows what we can handle and He tells us we can do it – He will hold our hand and guide us, but we need to get through this on our own two feet.  And think of how much stronger we are for having done it with God’s help, rather than having God do it for us.

…but those who trust in the Lord will renew their strength; they will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not faint.

 — Isaiah 40:31

Are you going through a trying time in your life?  I would be happy to pray for you.  Leave your concern in the comments section, or shoot me an email tmorris@teressamorris.com