5 Things I Did That I Hope My Child Doesn’t


Today we have a guest post from Alexis over at Babystuff.tips. Alexis is a mom of one from Brisbane, Australia.  Take it away, Alexis!!

Thanks Teressa and hi everyone! I started Baby Stuff as a way to connect to other parents and recording our day to day life while I stumble my way through parenting. I would love it if you would stop by to check out my site and see what my little man, Nicholas, and I get up to.

 5 Things I Did That I Hope My Child Doesn’t

I’ll start off by saying that, I wasn’t one of the “bad kids” in school. Somehow I skipped that whole teenage party phase (hope my parents appreciated that), but there are still things I did in my younger years that I look back on and cringe. I guess you have to make mistakes to learn from them, the main thing for me is to try and be the best example for my son that I can be.

Yet I know that no matter how hard I try, or how good of a role model I am, Nicholas will also have to learn things for himself. I just hope it isn’t any of these 5 things that have impacted me.

1. Waste money like it’s going out of fashion

My birthday is this week, and the birthday gift idea requests have been coming in thick and fast as per normal. This year though there was a slight difference in the conversation that sort of went a bit like this:

Brother in law: Do you have any idea what I can get her?

Husband: No idea, I turned her frugal.

Brother in law: Why did you do that? She used to be easy to buy for.

I’m not sure whether this was a compliment to my current or former lifestyle, but it’s true, I used to be a shopaholic. I used to spend my entire pay on items I didn’t need, without a single thought to the future.

Now that I’m knee deep in budgets, tracking spending ,and being a stellar role model for Nick, that cute little dress doesn’t seem so important. I also wonder how much further along we would have been, if I learnt the value of saving money earlier.

2. Not caring what you put into your body

My eating habits were terrible when I was younger. A habitual breakfast skipper, I spend most of my time eating sugary packaged snack food. When my eyes were finally opened to exactly what that “food” was doing to me, I had a long road of eating habits to break. I’m now almost 30, and I still struggle to limit how many treats I eat (while hiding in the pantry so Nick doesn’t pick up the wrong habits).

At the moment I am also hoping that Nick isn’t going to eat dog food. Unfortunately I know from experience that dog food is not very tasty (I was dared by my brother when I was young), so I hope Nick doesn’t sneak any. The trouble is that Nick is at that age where every time he finds even a speck of dirt, he puts it straight to his mouth. So I’m not holding my breath on that one.

3. Don’t spend too much time being inactive

The other day I was playing a trivia board game and the questions were all about movies and TV Shows. I won by a fair margin, and it got me thinking – how much television have I watched in my lifetime?

I remember being so excited when Dad got the Sunday paper because that was the one that had the weeks TV Guide in it. Cringe. Even now when I don’t watch any television for myself, exercising seems to be a chore.

4. Not watching where you’re walking

I don’t know how many times a day I say things like “be careful where you’re walking” and “don’t hit your head on the…”. If I’m going to be completely honest, every time Nick starts reading a book while walking and then runs into a wall, a see a little of myself in him. I have never met a glass door or wall that I haven’t run into, and it seems that the more public the setting, the more likely I am to run into it.

In this instance, I would be happy if Nick was able to learn from seeing my mistakes…or bruises.

5. Not finding and following your passion

When I was younger I had no grand plan, and nothing that I was really passionate about. The only thing that I wanted from my future was a library like the one in Beauty and the Beast *drool*.

Now that I’m a bit older, I’m starting to discover a whole heap of things that I never knew I would enjoy, and things that I want to experience or learn.

If Nick sees nothing else, I hope he sees that following your dreams and interests is one of the most important things in life. I hope that he strives to do what makes him happy, as you never know what life has in store for you.

What are some lessons you hope your child doesn’t have to learn “the hard way”?

You’re Too Young For Cataracts

too young for cataractsI have worn glasses since I was about 7 years old.  And they’ve always been pretty thick and absolutely necessary. For awhile, in high school, and then on and off throughout my adult years, I wore contacts, but with all my sinus problems my eyes dried out so quickly that glasses were usually a more comfortable option.   A few years ago presbyopia kicked in and I found that I could look over the top of my glasses to read a menu, the computer screen, etc., but if I wore contacts I needed reading glasses.  So I gave up the contacts completely.

too young for cataractsAbout a year and a half ago I got a new eyeglass prescription.  I noticed after a few months that it really wasn’t helping, especially in my right eye.  We didn’t have health insurance, so I let it go until January when my benefits kicked in at work.

When I explained the situation to my new optometrist, he thought it was because I needed bifocals.  So I adapted to new glasses, and it helped, a little.   But I noticed that even with my glasses off my eyesight was worse in my right eye than in my left.  So back to the optometrist I went.

This time he ran a lot of tests for pressure, fluid buildup and the like.  My right eye was now only correctable to 20/40 even with a good prescription.  Not bad, but annoying, nonetheless.  The optometrist told me the blurriness was “of idiopathic origin” (which means he had no idea what was causing it) and gave me a referral to the ophthalmologist.

It took me six weeks to get seen by the specialist (that’s an HMO for you).  By this time I had double vision and could no longer drive at night due to massive halos.

too young for cataracts
Here’s a simulated example of the halos and starbursts I was experiencing.

Sitting in the waiting room, I realized that I was the youngest patient there by at least 20 years.  When they called me back, a nurse dilated my eyes, then did the standard eye test. Failed, as usual.  Next, he handed me an eye-paddle that was covered in holes.  When I looked through the holes I was able to see more clearly.  Amazing!! I wondered what it meant.

Finally the ophthalmologist came in and told me I had cataracts in both eyes. The left one was not causing problems yet but the right one obviously was.  She strongly suggested cataract surgery.

too young for cataractsI asked the doctor how I got the cataracts.  She said that they could be caused by trauma (none), eye disease (negative) or the normal aging process (I’m only 47).  Then she told me sometimes cataracts just happen.

A problem complicating my situation was the already horrible vision in my left eye.  I would still have to wear glasses or contacts.  The doctor recommended I get a contact for my left eye as that would be easier for my brain to reconcile with the new lens in my right eye.    She set me up an appointment with a contact lens fitter for the week before my surgery.  We decided to go for monovision, which meant that my right eye would be corrected surgically for distance and my left eye would be corrected through my contact for close work (reading, computer, etc.).  Hopefully my brain would be able to switch naturally between the eyes depending on the task.

Surgery took another five weeks to schedule.  Prep required antibiotic and steroid eye drops for 3 days before the surgery, then dilating drops the morning of.  I waited in the outpatient waiting beds for about an hour while they monitored my vitals, started an i.v. and put in lots and lots of numbing drops.  Finally the time came to wheel me into the operating room.

The nurse started some calming meds in the i.v. and draped my face so only my eye was showing.  The doctor came in and told me to keep my eye on some colored lights.  It was all very surreal and I wondered when the surgery would begin.  The doctor said, “Okay, we’re about 50% done.  Hang in there.”  What?  She had been cutting on my eye for 5 minutes and I never even felt it!! The whole surgery only took 10 minutes.

too young for cataracts
Maybe I shouldn’t have taken pics while I was still high on surgery meds.

After the surgery it was amazing how well I could see with my right eye. After a couple of days, my brain adjusted to the contact in my left eye and my monovision was working great.

Now I am almost four weeks post surgery.  Still on steroid eye drops, but other than that back to normal.  I waited to post this until I could take a picture with eye makeup, as the doctor said I couldn’t wear any for the first three weeks (I know it’s vain, but cut me some slack, will you?)

too young for cataractsIt looks like I will need to have my left eye done as well before the end of the year. Not sure if I will need to wear reading glasses afterwards or not.  I’ll let you know 😉