Today we have a guest post from Alexis over at Babystuff.tips. Alexis is a mom of one from Brisbane, Australia. Take it away, Alexis!!
Thanks Teressa and hi everyone! I started Baby Stuff as a way to connect to other parents and recording our day to day life while I stumble my way through parenting. I would love it if you would stop by to check out my site and see what my little man, Nicholas, and I get up to.
5 Things I Did That I Hope My Child Doesn’t
I’ll start off by saying that, I wasn’t one of the “bad kids” in school. Somehow I skipped that whole teenage party phase (hope my parents appreciated that), but there are still things I did in my younger years that I look back on and cringe. I guess you have to make mistakes to learn from them, the main thing for me is to try and be the best example for my son that I can be.
Yet I know that no matter how hard I try, or how good of a role model I am, Nicholas will also have to learn things for himself. I just hope it isn’t any of these 5 things that have impacted me.
1. Waste money like it’s going out of fashion
My birthday is this week, and the birthday gift idea requests have been coming in thick and fast as per normal. This year though there was a slight difference in the conversation that sort of went a bit like this:
Brother in law: Do you have any idea what I can get her?
Husband: No idea, I turned her frugal.
Brother in law: Why did you do that? She used to be easy to buy for.
I’m not sure whether this was a compliment to my current or former lifestyle, but it’s true, I used to be a shopaholic. I used to spend my entire pay on items I didn’t need, without a single thought to the future.
Now that I’m knee deep in budgets, tracking spending ,and being a stellar role model for Nick, that cute little dress doesn’t seem so important. I also wonder how much further along we would have been, if I learnt the value of saving money earlier.
2. Not caring what you put into your body
My eating habits were terrible when I was younger. A habitual breakfast skipper, I spend most of my time eating sugary packaged snack food. When my eyes were finally opened to exactly what that “food” was doing to me, I had a long road of eating habits to break. I’m now almost 30, and I still struggle to limit how many treats I eat (while hiding in the pantry so Nick doesn’t pick up the wrong habits).
At the moment I am also hoping that Nick isn’t going to eat dog food. Unfortunately I know from experience that dog food is not very tasty (I was dared by my brother when I was young), so I hope Nick doesn’t sneak any. The trouble is that Nick is at that age where every time he finds even a speck of dirt, he puts it straight to his mouth. So I’m not holding my breath on that one.
3. Don’t spend too much time being inactive
The other day I was playing a trivia board game and the questions were all about movies and TV Shows. I won by a fair margin, and it got me thinking – how much television have I watched in my lifetime?
I remember being so excited when Dad got the Sunday paper because that was the one that had the weeks TV Guide in it. Cringe. Even now when I don’t watch any television for myself, exercising seems to be a chore.
4. Not watching where you’re walking
I don’t know how many times a day I say things like “be careful where you’re walking” and “don’t hit your head on the…”. If I’m going to be completely honest, every time Nick starts reading a book while walking and then runs into a wall, a see a little of myself in him. I have never met a glass door or wall that I haven’t run into, and it seems that the more public the setting, the more likely I am to run into it.
In this instance, I would be happy if Nick was able to learn from seeing my mistakes…or bruises.
5. Not finding and following your passion
When I was younger I had no grand plan, and nothing that I was really passionate about. The only thing that I wanted from my future was a library like the one in Beauty and the Beast *drool*.
Now that I’m a bit older, I’m starting to discover a whole heap of things that I never knew I would enjoy, and things that I want to experience or learn.
If Nick sees nothing else, I hope he sees that following your dreams and interests is one of the most important things in life. I hope that he strives to do what makes him happy, as you never know what life has in store for you.