Self-Confidence Update #OneWord365

You may recall from an earlier post that instead of making a long list of New Year’s Resolutions this year, I chose one word that symbolized a character trait I wanted to work on.  My word for 2014 is Self-Confidence.

As a reminder, Self-confidence is defined, according to Merriam-Webster as:

a feeling or belief that you can do something well or succeed at something

And here was the reason I gave for wanting to have self-confidence:

I tend to second guess everything I say and do.  I often ask for reassurances from friends and family that I am making the right decision.  And while occasionally asking for confirmation of my own opinion is a good thing, too much of it is debilitating.  It can keep me from making decisions in a timely fashion and miss out on opportunities. Now that I am learning to be courageous, I want to be self-confident as well.

 What I Have Learned So Far

  1. Self-confidence is harder/easier depending on the day, my mood, hormones, events, etc.  Some days I feel like I know just what to say and do.  Other days I have to remind myself that I am an intelligent, semi-successful woman and my opinion IS valuable.
  2. I don’t need to point out my own self-confidenceimprovements.  (Oops – I guess I am doing that right now for this blog.  Oh well -chalk it up to self-reflection).  As I get better at speaking up for myself and my opinions, I find myself saying to friends or family – “Did you see how I said that?  I wouldn’t have been able to do that a year ago.”  Of course, they know that.  They don’t need me to tell them.  And if I really want to hear congratulations, it would be better if it came naturally.  I shouldn’t really need congratulations anyway.   I should be happy enough KNOWING the improvements are happening.
  3. Self-confidence is infectious (contagious?).  If I surround myself with self-confident people, than I tend to be more self-confident.  Also, if I speak up for myself, it might inspire someone else to speak up too.

One of the things I’ve discovered is that I’m worth it.  I am a daughter of God, and

  • I AM worth getting enough sleep.
  • I AM worth eating healthy foods.
  • I AM worth getting enough exercise.
  • I AM worth finding time to relax.
  • I AM worth having a peaceful home.
  • I AM worth a good job and reasonable pay.

Did you pick your ONE WORD?  How’s your year so far?